Coming to this felt like the absolute last ditch effort to salvage our relationship. It felt so far beyond anything that I knew how to repair or transform. And I know that the opening, which I now feel with every fiber of my being, couldn’t have happened anywhere else but here at Manzanita Village, under the guidance of Caitrìona and Michele.
—Emily Steinberg (attended the Amazing Relationships Retreat)
Caitriona and Michele have been in relationship together for 36 years. They have each changed multiple times in those years. They have moved from being a straight couple to being a queer couple. They have at different times been monogamous, polyamorous, and celibate. They have fought, struggled, laughed, sulked, made up, celebrated, and learned to never take any of it too seriously .. above all they have learned to yield to each other, respect the deep unfathomable pool of each other, and listen.
Relationships are about communication, freedom, boundaries, empathy, play. They are never static, and never to be taken for granted.
Join us for a playful and deep exploration into how to develop a healthy relationship, not just with your primary partner, but with friends, colleagues, and the world at large.
What I discovered here is that the most important relationship on this journey is the relationship I have with myself. It begins with myself and then leads me to relate with everything around me. Every movement, every breath, every place I go, I am in relationship with something. The elements, and the air, and the cars, and the people in the cars, and the people that I work with, and the family that I grew up with, and the roots that I came from, and the ancestors that are still in my soul, it’s all relationship.
I was able to do some great housecleaning, to heal and transform some old relationship from the past. I learned great some tools that I can take with me; among them when, and how, to put on armor, and when to expose my heart. Skills that are so important for me to navigate this world.
I am really grateful for the opportunity to come here. It is such a wide open, clear, breathing, beautiful space that allows whatever needs to come in. The guidance is sometimes gentle, sometimes a little bit fiercer .. because that’s what I need.
—Johanna Hartman (attended the Amazing Relationships Retreat)
We will be covering:
- Suspending Judgment
- Disagreement, Agreement, and Listening
- The World as Eros
- Learning to see the world as mirror
For years people have been asking us if we’d teach something about relationships.
After all, we’ve been together for a very long time, and people keep saying how inspired they are by our relationship, by being around us.. and that we seem to do it very well.
One of the reasons we haven’t, and it’s also one of the reasons we thrive, as business partners and as life partners, is that we don’t really believe in the primacy of a single relationship.
That may just be why we’ve decided to teach it anyway
We have lots of deep friendships, collaborations, and people who fulfill different needs. (We’re not talking about sex, but the sacred intimacy of deep friendship) .. connection, communication, keeping things real..
Many people we know are frustrated: because they can’t find a life partner, or they think they have but end up being disappointed time after time. Other friends who are married or in a long term relationship are frustrated because there’s something missing, a gulf to be bridged ..
Only a few people we know have a really dynamic, evolving relationship, that’s vibrant, alive, human in every way, creative, playful, serious, sometimes challenging, but always real.
Your primary relationship, like any relationship, is based on your ability:
to know when and how to ask for what you want
to know when to set firm boundaries and when to yield
to be alone, to let the other person be alone
to recognize the values and needs of the other person
to laugh, especially at yourself
This isn’t JUST about finding your soul-mate or having an idealized PERFECT relationship is it?.. it is much more than that.. It’s about coming into the wholeness of yourself.
Otherwise you end up chasing a ‘shadow’ image of yourself, an unconscious projection, that may feel okay but ultimately doesn’t let you grow or truly RELATE to others in the way you both deserve.